It's Worth The Wait !

 

 

 This Year the Chasity Conference was held on 11th February. A weekend just before Valentine’s Day. The theme of the conference was Responsible Human Relationships.

Sometimes I tend to think that a Spirit or an urge to have Sex is usually released on Valentine’s Day. I remember clearly an incident that happened while I was in campus many years ago. It was on Valentine’s day at around 6pm the ladies hostel was a bee hive of activities as we were all getting ready to spend an evening with the ones we choose to love at that time. I recall one of my friends crying & lamenting accusing me of making her periods to start. Yes, we ladies have this line of thought that when we spend much time together our Menstrual Cycle tend to be the same. So here I am being accused that I made someone’s menses begin so they won’t be able to have their Valentine Day sex. At that time, I truly felt guilty cos I didn’t know what I know now.

But I am reminded of the Scripture in Ecclesiastes 3 that states, there is a time for everything, & a season for every activity under the heavens. Including Sex!

A good friend of mine once told me if a Man truly loves you he will guard your sexuality.

There is a phrase my high school teacher used to like to use during the cold weather. The weather is for TWO but the pregnancy is for ONE. In simple terms my friends it means there is only one party who will be having a protruding belly and will unfortunately bear the stigma. And the responsibility that comes with the pregnancy & childbearing. In my experience as a Pregnancy counselor the men in most cases do not take the responsibility. It’s the sad truth.

This reminds of a TikTok video I watched during the season of valentine’s the message was simple & clear before going to your boyfriend’s house it would be a good idea to walk through the pampers aisle in the supermarket. Yes, the message does hit home. Having a baby is a costly affair especially if you do not have any support.

Every time I am invited to give a talk on sex especially to the young people, I normally challenge them to look at sex from this perspective. Supposing they gave you your wedding cake to keep. And once in a while you cut a piece of cake and eat it then it simply means on your wedding day, you might have no cake or very little to enjoy. In other words, sex is to be enjoyed within the confines of Marriage. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Gen 2:24. A marriage is consummated with sex.

I will tell you for free that engaging in Pre – Marital sex is like inviting unnecessary Anxiety in one’s life. Just imagine walking all over with the thoughts like am I pregnant? Will he take responsibility? I have I contracted any Sexually Transmitted Dieses or Infections? And it’s very awkward how Kenyan Ladies fear Pregnancy rather than HIV/Aids a mystery I never understand.  

And Just because others are doing it doesn’t mean you have to. Do not conform to the pattern of this world. Romans 12:2




 

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