Healing A Father's Heart!

  

''Honor your Father and your Mother''

Any Man can Sire a Child but it takes a real man to take full responsibilty of the child. To a child  a Father is a Protector, Provider, Priest and most importantly be present. Yes presence is of great importance. Being a present dad is a plus. 

In an African Culture a Child's Identity comes from the Father. We bear our Father's surname. And most times when we introduce ourselves I am the son or daughter of we are mostly likely to begin with our Father's name.

 As a matter of fact it is said a girl's first love is her father. Its a father who is supposed to show his daughter how a man is meant to treat her. I have seen it in the movies and even short videos where a father takes his little girl on a date just to show her she should be treated in the future. A father sets the standards for her little how she should. And for his son he sets the standards on how to treat a woman. This the children can observe through how their father treats their Mother. This is simply observing and implementing the behaviour.

The month of June the world celebrated Father's Day. One thing I have learnt is your biological father remains to be your father no matter the cirmunstances. And if nature allows do good to that man. There are blessings 

If you have had the privelege of seeing your father just thank God even if he wasnt perfect. I tell you there are people who are looking for there fathers or they could do anything to meet their father. 

Today I will share with you a story out of a personal experience. Growing up she never really had a good relationship with her dad. She always associated her dad with making noise, insults & breakage of things to her he was just a terrorist. The man who is meant to protect her was the same man who was hurting her. So she would ask herself who does she run to.

She always prayed & hoped that something bad such as death would befall to her father. One time her high school deskmate lost her dad. During the burial her friend cried & wailed and she kept wondering why it was not her own dad who had died 😢😢😢or why was it not her dad who had died. At that moment she knew the only hope was her dad to die. She fondly remembers one time as her mother was cooking her mother got a phone call that her husband had been involved in a car accident. All the girl was wishing was her father's death. 

But all this changed the day her dad was admitted in hospital. The first time she went to visit her dad in hospital she left crying. She now found herself praying to God to heal her dad. Each time she visited her dad in hospital and he saw the pain tears would roll down her cheeks & she hoped the man would not die not just yet. 

She wondered how difficult life would be without her Father, whom she fondly refered to as Mr. Fix it. Anything that got spoilt the dad always fixed it not a single day does she remember them hiring labour to fix things in the house. 

And when her dad was discharged from the hospital she learnt to appreciate and pray for her dad because she relised any time he could be gone. As the scriptures states in the book of Mathew  “But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. Let us learn to appreciate our loved ones when they are alive, because you may never know when they will be gone.

I recently attended a Forum, where majority of the ladies confessed they had been sexually abused by their fathers. This is made realise that this young girl had a good father aleast he had never tried to sexually abuse her.

My mum has a friend who always used to pray for her husband's death. Then he died. Now she just seats in her couch wishing her husband were alive. 😭😭😭😭

I have learnt the best I can do to my parents is Appreciate what they have done for me & pray that God will bless them! Because one day I will also be a parent and I definately wont be perfect.

Cheers To Our Dads!